Resolving Conflicts
for Young People

Controlling anger isn't easy, but you can learn to be in control -- without fighting. Using brainpower instead of fists and weapons can keep you from getting hurt, or from hurting someone else. Do you find yourself getting angry too much? If so, here are some tips to help you control your anger.

• Don't do anything until you stop and think. Try not to make quick comments or act too fast. Give yourself some time to think things through.

• Listen when the other person is talking. Try to understand his or her point of view.

• Say exactly what you mean. Think about how to express your side of the argument in a clear way.

• Get away fast if someone has a weapon, or has been using alcohol or other drugs. This isn't a good time to try to reason with someone.

• Walk away when you're too angry to be reasonable. Cool down. Think about what you might say to solve the problem without violence.

• Stay away from people who tease you in a mean way or threaten you. Who needs friends like that?

• Think for yourself when you're in a group. Belonging to a group is fun, but sometimes groups can pressure you to do things you know are wrong.

• Respect yourself and others too. Everyone (even someone who looks strange or dresses differently) deserves to be treated with respect. Try to treat people the way you like to be treated.

• Ask a friend or trusted adult to help solve the problem.

• Remember that real-life violence is frightening or dangerous. On TV they never show you the pain.